Start Dating up dump the schlump and find a quality man

Dating up dump the schlump and find a quality man

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And THAT’s the big blind spot for many intelligent, successful women. The woman who doesn’t give him a hard time about hanging out with his friends. The woman who is up for anything on the weekends and everything in bed. I can’t say whether you care about being a better girlfriend, but now you’ve got no excuse. It’s not a contradiction – no more than it’s a contradiction for a busy entrepreneur to be emotionally available or a charismatic alpha male to be a good listener.

You assume that because you value certain traits in men; men value the same thing in women. It’s not that intelligence, money, and leadership are unimportant to men; it’s that they place a distant second compared to the most important trait: How you make him FEEL. It’s not your list of credentials that impress men – it’s how they feel about themselves when they’re with you. The woman whose default setting is happy, not stressed/angry/anxious. However, you might notice that men who are consumed with their careers are not always available, and men who are charismatic often like to hear themselves talk.

That alpha male is very attractive and most women are attracted to him.

The glitch is that this man is not looking for a woman who’s just like him. It’s because they either don’t KNOW how to be better boyfriends or they don’t CARE. I talk about this extensively in Why He Disappeared – how you can be smart, strong and successful and still be easygoing and nurturing.

That’s why I wrote, “Why He Disappeared.” As a male dating coach who specializes in helping women understand men, I have compiled all the answers for you.

The problem is, you can never get them from your ex.

I first realized that this truth was a revelation after giving a speech to a group of 100 singles, aged 25-40. Despite the raucous laughter and the nodding heads, there was one time that you could hear a pin drop. They want someone tall, masculine, intelligent, and decisive.

My speaking engagements are always fun, with lots of laughter and crowd participation. It was when I was talking about what men REALLY want out of women. They want him to be a passionate captain of industry – a man who can hold a room with his charisma, tell a story that makes your sides split, and can bring home the bacon as well.

The great thing is that this is something you can shift TODAY.

Just by understanding that men like to FEEL good – not emasculated, not second guessed, not browbeaten – you can become the ideal girlfriend instantly.

If you're a smart, sophisticated, independent woman looking for love, why shouldn't it be you'J.